LETS GET REAL!
REAL STORIES FROM REAL PEOPLE
Diane's Story
Fear and anxiety, two big words, we all feel them, yes, we all have to deal with them. But for me, as many of us it's too overwhelming to deal with. My fears were too real, sometimes nearly too much, what I feared – failure, never being good enough (work, family, life) always having to please, trying to hard (be better, be popular, be funny, be fit). Fear was my life, waking up and starting my day was becoming insurmountable.
Anxiety on the other hand I didn't understand or know, I just had a sick feeling all the time, it made me avoid many situations or events. Then I reached out to a face on the internet I could relate to, Paul Heffernan spoke to me, asked questions and straight away my fear and anxiety lessened. I worked with Paul through the 'MINDSHIFT' process that made sense to me and made me understand myself and my fears so very clearly. Some things we discussed about me rocked me to my core and still brings back strong emotions.
My own self-esteem and what I believed of myself changed, what I had feared and the things that had made me anxious now stopped.It still comes back don't get me wrong, but Paul and the 'MINDSHIFT' process have given me the tools to work through these times and come through stronger.
Every day is to cherish, give thanks.
Diane
Kane's Story
Kia Ora Paul
I want to thank you for taking me through the 'MINDSHIFT' process. I never knew how much fear, anxiety and anger I was holding onto, I feel this limited me from reaching my full potential.
Now after completing 'MINDSHIFT' I now see how crippling these fears and resentments were, they had a negative impact on my work performance and personal relationships.
'MINDSHIFT' has given me a new lease on life as well as provided insight into keeping myself safe.
Many thanks
Kane
Case Manager
Department of Corrections
DR Peter
Anger Fear and The Biggy‚ - Resentment!
When I was a teenager, I resented that my mum went to work and I was babysat at my grandmother’s house with my cousins, other kids had more money, bigger houses, newer bikes etc
I thought this was not fair and feared this would always be the case and this made me angry.
These unpleasant feelings were not understood by me, so all this exploded out of me as a rebellious teenager who looked to numb unpleasant feelings in drugs and alcohol.
Superficially this made things tolerable because my mind was numbed but nothing was resolved, and I carried my anger fear and resentment into adulthood. i had a good memory, so I succeeded academically and became a doctor at 22 still abusing drugs and alcohol to numb feelings which I had no idea of how to deal with.
Not knowing how to deal with unpleasant feelings meant I was incredibly anxious about life all the time could not relax naturally and slept poorly and eventually became dependent on drugs to sleep Four children and three wives later I found myself depressed and suicidal in my late fifties. After three failed suicide attempts in desperation and despair I found Paul
Heffernan and‚ ‘Mindshift', online whilst searching for hope in a sea of self-pity
Paul rapidly took me through a process where I looked at myself and my part in all of my life’s fuckups. No focus on the story but rather all the focus on the feelings and my part in where things went wrong so no blaming others) - my fears, my anger and my resentment. By writing all this down I was able to finally let go of all the anger and fear and my resentments eased. Big exhale, what a relief. Consequently, the high anxiety which had plagued me for 40 plus years abated and I learned to appreciate my life and the others in it. Of course, this is an on-going process of self-reflection but with the tools and some regular effort calm can be maintained.
So, if you are plagued by anxiety fear and resentment to the point that your life is negatively affected, I suggest you look at this. The beauty of this is by looking at yourself you can make a choice to let go of these unpleasant feelings and attitudes and view things differently. This is doable whereas waiting for others to change is a long frustrating highway to anger fear and resentment.
Dr Peter
Radiologist
NSW
